Mums Gone Wild
Mums Gone Wild: Two Generations, Zero Filters
Join a mother-daughter duo as they dive into Reddit’s wildest posts, tackle your juiciest write-ins, and dish out advice with zero filters. Expect laughs, chaos, and real talk because we are not therapists but we are never shy about giving our two cents. From hilarious stories to heartfelt moments, Mums Gone Wild is where generations collide, comedy thrives, and the conversation is always unfiltered.
Mums Gone Wild
Caught in the Act: Secrets, Surprises, and Spicy Revelations
Two mums pull apart viral AITA stories with empathy and edge, from a hot-sauce “solution” to a nonverbal child’s biting to divorce papers stapled to a positive pregnancy test. We talk safety, consent, trust, and how to set boundaries without losing your mind or your humour.
• ADHD self-assessment and family traits
• Nonverbal child biting and risky “hot sauce” deterrents
• Safer sensory strategies and caregiver boundaries
• Cheating during infertility and the bathroom confession
• Divorce timing, co‑parenting and extended family pressure
• Sleep wars, light etiquette and device discipline at night
• Baby name overlaps with fiction and postpartum emotions
• Body image, resentment, and couples therapy after birth
• Teasers for hidden camera and breakup stories on Patreon
We are coming out with Patreon this year. If you would like to hear those extra bonus stories, then you can jump on over there and listen to those.
Welcome to Mum's Gone Wild, the show where Reddit meets real talk and chaos meets comedy. I'm Chloe. And I'm Paula. Every week we'll dive into Reddit's wildest posts and juiciest write-ins. Warning, the advice you're about to hear is completely unsolicited, mildly unhinged, and definitely not professional.
SPEAKER_02:But hey, we're not therapists, but that's never stopped us from giving our opinions anyway. So let's get unhinged.
SPEAKER_03:Hello, we're back. Hello, it's been a while. How are you? I am well.
SPEAKER_02:Yeah, good. That's good. Good. Ready to get back into it. We've had a bit of a break, unexpectedly. Happy New Year. Oh yeah, Merry Christmas. And all of the above. All of the things that have happened. We last saw you in 2025 and now it's 2026. Yeah. Well, I actually just saw you yesterday. So well, I'm talking about these guys. Oh, okay. Sorry. Yes. What was that laugh like? Do you know what? It's Sunday afternoon, and I have had two and a half bourbons. So forgive me.
SPEAKER_00:I have not, but I have been mumming hard the past two days in the house.
SPEAKER_02:Yeah. Okay. Well, you kind of have to mum hard every day when you're a mum. No, but you know, when you're like we're not leaving the house doing a few home days, just cabin fever, and like you just stuck there and it's just entertaining and all that's much. That's mummy. Mumming hard. Yeah, okay. You're doing it tough.
unknown:Yeah.
SPEAKER_02:Yeah. That's okay. But that's okay. That's all right. And uh lucky your mum and dad did dinner and spa dates with you and your family the other day, so you didn't have to mum hard too hard.
SPEAKER_03:I love coming over here. I just I kind of go, well, no, these the the grandkids are your problem. I know I see that. I check out. I'll sit in the spa thank you. You play the Barbie dolls, you'd be the dinner. Here to be da binding mum.
SPEAKER_02:I see those reels that you see on Facebook. Yeah. Where it's like where people just like fully check out when they go to their parents' house. Like the grandkids are there, and it's like they're just on their phones on the lounge, scrolling and doing shit. Like, you know, it's not my problem. They're your grandkids.
SPEAKER_00:I'm pretty like, I've been really considering ringing you up and asking for a sleepover, but not the kids. Just you.
SPEAKER_02:Mum, can I have a sleep report? I would say sure. A sleepover. Oh my god, can you imagine if we had the boys as well? We could do a Harry Potter. That would be cool. That would be good fun. We do like good old Harry. And we would like watch the first two and all get sick of it and then just do something different, probably. We've tried to have Harry Potter marathons before. It's just it won't happen. It's really tricky. You can't sit there for a long time because I feel like we all have closet ADHD anyway, so none of us can sit there for that long. I'm the one that's actually going to go through with the diagnosis. Yeah. So you can be the foundation of the family that has ADHD that we just keep struggling with.
SPEAKER_03:I'm currently like looking at diagnoses and diagnosis and things. And a lot of it is coming to fruition. And I'm like, yeah, uh the apple does not fall too far from the trees.
SPEAKER_02:I know. And I've only just started realizing it is because you're doing what you're doing, it's making me think, that sounds a lot like me. There's a lot of things that sound we don't just look the same. Oh God. All right. Anyway, we have some doozies for you today. And I've got a couple that I've got to really grind your gears. Okay. Well, I feel like you start then because I have had quite a few that I've been popping over to our notes, and I've read and I've loved them. But now that we're actually recording, I'm not loving them so much anymore. So give me some inspo. I don't know. Okay. Give me, have you got two? Did you say you've got two? I do, but there's this one here, and I feel like it's gonna cause a bit of a stir. Okay, well, I poured myself a glass of wine and I've put it over the other side of the room because I wasn't really feeling like it. So I'm gonna wonder whether this makes me cross over to go and get it. We'll see how good it is. And yeah, okay.
SPEAKER_03:All right, the title is Am I the Asshole for Spilling Hot Sauce on My Sleeves and teaching my nonverbal cousin not to bite? What the fuck? What yeah, I'll read that again. Am I the asshole for spilling hot sauce? Hot sauce, hot sauce on my sleeves and teaching my non-verbal cousin not to bite.
SPEAKER_02:I feel like that's yes, yes, you are. End of story. Don't even need to read it. Next what left? Yeah. No, yes, okay. So spill hot sauce on your sleeves and teach your non-verbal cousin to not like I feel like you can do that with just spilling them on your spoon, like having a spoon of hot sauce.
SPEAKER_03:Well, yeah, all right, find out what this perhaps maybe get no tea involved, but you know, there's there's professionals for these things.
SPEAKER_02:Yes. Before you say anything, it was only is it tappanado or tap must be like like is it like tappas? Like not ghost pepper. Like so not like it wasn't hot. Oh, okay.
SPEAKER_03:It wasn't like hot, like fiery hot. Must have been like spice.
SPEAKER_02:So not ring sting hot. Yeah, not ringsting, not that hot. If you don't know what ring sting is, it could be an Australian thing. Well no, it's like the burning ring of fire. Yes, but like like we have uh people that listen outside of Australia. So we do just to educate you. Ring sting is your bottom hole over here in Australia where you poop out of, it's called a ring. And so sting would be burn. So if you expect getting really hot the next day when you go to what goes in must come out. When you open your bowels the next day, you get ring sting. Bernie's in, bernie's out. Let's basically to summarize that. Yeah, okay, cool. Bernie in, Bernie out. Go ahead, ring sting.
SPEAKER_03:Yeah, okay. So I have a four-year-old cousin that is non-verbal. He's a reasonably good kid, but he bites. And since I'm the oldest non-adult, whenever our families get together, I'm the designated childcare giver for all the kids, including him. Now say that's not fair.
SPEAKER_02:No, how old is this person? Do they say that at the beginning? They say it at the end, they're 16. Oh, okay. Female. 16, female. But he beat me over the summer. He bit me at Thanksgiving and Christmas. He's bitten me many times. This was only posted 10 hours ago, by the way. Oh, okay. So very, very fresh. Maybe Christmas and New Year functions. This little one learned a lesson.
SPEAKER_03:So I have been wearing a jean jacket, like a denim jacket, around him for protection. Nobody else will do anything to help me, so I helped myself. New Year's Eve, I spilt a bunch of Mexican hot sauce on the sleeves and cuffs of my jacket. He bit me. And then he stopped really fast and started screaming. Everyone came to check him, but he wasn't hurt. He finally settled down. I washed my jacket on the on the first.
SPEAKER_02:I I washed my jacket on the first and didn't say anything.
SPEAKER_03:My aunt came over yesterday and I wore my jacket. He settled down and played. He didn't invite me. I told a friend of mine what I did and she said I was wrong for doing that. I don't know. He needed to stop and my aunt wasn't doing anything.
SPEAKER_04:Am I the arsehole? Yeah, the kids are only four. Like do you know what?
SPEAKER_00:I kind of feel like that like the question is am I the arsehole who's giving hot sauce? Yes, I think that that's a pretty arsehole move. The kids are non-verbal, they can't actually then tell them tell the problem.
SPEAKER_03:Like I feel like that's kind of like, but I actually think that auntie is a bit of an asshole in all of this. For not doing anything. For not doing anything. And also handballing four-year-old off to the 16-year-old, knowing that he's non-verbal, biting, and those sorts of things.
SPEAKER_00:I think that she shouldn't just be like, I'm here.
SPEAKER_02:You've got the kids that you should kind of really step up as a parent. And yeah, there's a whole lot of things that can come. So, like with the non-verbal kiddo, is there something else going on as well as being non-verbal? Sensory seeking. Yeah, or and or have an idea that you know, like the child might have an intellectual disability as well as being non-verbal, or like you said, sensory seeking. So, who did the young girl say she's spoken to? The auntie and her parents? No, she didn't spoke. She spoke to just a friend of hers that said told her what she would do. That said that was she was wrong. Because the auntie is not doing anything. Yeah, I the thing is, is like that kid could have like quickly hands in the mouth, hot, hot, hot, then hands in the eyes, hot, hot, hot. So, yeah, like I think that was the wrong way to go about it. Yeah, definitely. I feel like you're at your wit's end. Like, this kid keeps biting me. I reckon if you made more of a statement saying, I'm no, yeah, I'm not looking after this child because is it a he child or a she child? Just a four-year-old child. I mean, I'm not that I know whether it's a girl or boy, I was just a conversation. The child, like, just say, no, this kid bites. Yeah, and also do something about it. She's only 16. The m her mum should be standing for her. Yeah what I mean. So, yes, she's the arsehole for putting hot sauce on because of the repercussions of that. The kid can't talk, it could be serious, like pennies in kids, or her her eyes, an allergic reaction, 100%, all that sort of thing. Some people get like have an aversion to like heat and those sorts of things. So, yes, I think it could be assholes. But I think her mum and her auntie are probably more assholy for not protecting the 16-year-old of not of the kid, because kids will be kids, but of that responsibility of looking after a child that's non-verbal. Yeah, 100%. I reckon if she auntie, definitely asshole. And if she'd spoken, because it doesn't say that she spoke to her my her parents, but I feel like a she needs to step up and just say, great kid, love them, blah, blah, blah, blah, but bites. How do I stop them from biting? I don't mean say him as in him. I just don't know what sex this baby is. So, or child is, but like, yeah, she definitely needs to speak up for herself a little bit more, but not the arsehole.
SPEAKER_03:Yeah, I'm not really loving all the comments. Oh, yeah. A lot of people like are saying that she's not the arsehole. They say that they're proud of her for coming up with something simultaneously being villainous, educational, and harmless. See, I strongly disagree with that. I think that it is quite harmful.
SPEAKER_02:It can be quite harmful. It's not educational. We've got a Miss Four, so can you imagine our Miss Four getting something really hot? And she, Miss Four has like a sensory, like is sensitive to lots of sensory things. Can you imagine that burning her tongue and then her wanting to rub it out and then getting like it's a whole mess of level of stuff? Do you know what I mean? I don't think teaching a child to not do something by punishing them with something hot is the way to go about it. I'm sorry that the 16-year-old went to those lengths to do it, but I don't think that was the right way to go about it. Nah. Does anybody agree with us? I don't even look.
SPEAKER_03:It kind of a lot of people said that they their kid bit them, so they bit them back.
SPEAKER_02:You know, all these sorts of unhelpful things. I mean, you've got that chewry, they call it that well, we you know like the chewies. Yeah, call them a chewy. So we don't mean like bubblegum chewy, it's like it's called chewry, so it's like a a rubber, like you wear uh as a necklace, and it's like a rubber thing on the end of a necklace, like it could be a doughnut ring or any sort of shape, and the kids can chew on it to get that chewing sensory input. So like that little four-year-old probably would benefit from something like that to get that bite sensory input. Like they're non-verbal, so there's probably a lot of them with communication. Yeah, that's right.
SPEAKER_03:Someone said you shouldn't have been designated child, you shouldn't be designated childcare anyway. And the parent should be responsible for this particular cousin andor pay a dedicated and trained person to provide childcare for Yeah, I don't know.
SPEAKER_02:It's a cousin 16 years old, like fool. Like, you gotta get to know your cousin. Like, I think that she can be take care of the cousin and stuff, just gotta learn other ways than hot sauce to deal with the child. I mean, they're gonna be in each other's lives forever. It'd be nice to get to learn and know yeah, oh yeah, I don't I don't think that she shouldn't have to do it every time. How often are they getting together?
SPEAKER_03:Well, this was happened over Thanksgiving, Christmas, New Year's, I think.
SPEAKER_02:So that's three quite quick consecutive times. Yeah, that's a lot.
unknown:That's a lot.
SPEAKER_03:Anyway, moving along.
SPEAKER_02:Do you have a story for me? I don't. It's a long one though, so let's hope this two and a half bourbons have not impaired my reading skills. Okay, I got let's. I'm just gonna clean my glasses, everyone, so I can read. Not showing my age, one little bit. Okay. All right. Am I the arsehole? So that yeah, this is the subreddit. Am I the arsehole? Am I the arsehole for serving my husband divorce papers with my positive pregnancy tests attached after he cried at his brother's wedding that he would never have a baby with me? So wait, read that again. I know you were doing something else there when I was reading that. Okay, laptop down. Am I the arsehole for serving my husband divorce papers with my positive pregnancy test attached after he cried at his brother's wedding that he, in apprentices, never have a baby with me? Rough. So I think all correctly, I'm just a little bit I reckon that he's like just reading that. I reckon he's like, not spitefully, I would never have a baby with her. It's like we don't really have a baby together. Because maybe they have trouble conceiving. Is that what you're thinking? I feel like it's not a good thing. I've kind of I've read through it, so I kind of know. I'm just trying to help you out. Yeah, it's not electric, but it's yeah. Oh okay, so I feel like it's so he's crying at his brother's wedding that he would never have a baby with his wife. Yeah, okay, so now I'm thinking it's like an insert infertility kind of thing. But the fact that she's giving him divorce papers with a positive pregnancy test.
SPEAKER_01:A pregnancy positive?
SPEAKER_00:Makes me think that it was out of splite, like maybe he they had an argument or something like that, and he's just come out and be like, I'm never having it, like crying, but angrily crying and never having a baby.
SPEAKER_03:I'm trying to I'm visualizing a movie in my head.
SPEAKER_02:Should I just read it? Read it? Yeah. All right, you good? Yep. Okay. So I'm 29 and he's 31. We've been trying for a baby for two years. Every month was the same routine. Hope, disappointment, him getting quieter and more distance. Distant. Six months ago, he said we should take a break from trying because the stress was too much. I agreed because I thought he needed space to process everything. That's kind of like textbook, isn't it? Like for people that are trying all the time. Okay. His younger brother got married last weekend. The reception was at this gorgeous vineyard. Everyone was drinking and dancing. Typical wedding stuff. During the toast, the bride suddenly grabbed the mic and announced, We're pregnant. Everyone went crazy, cheering, crying, the whole thing. Wait, they said that. Wait, the bride said that? Yeah. Oh, okay. Sorry, I'm thinking somebody's just grabbed the mic. No, no. It's like stole the bath. Okay, yeah. So no, they're it's in their own weddings. Yeah, it's not their own bubble of love. They got married and quickly. They yep. So anyhow, everyone's excited at this wedding. I looked over at my husband and his face just crumbled. He got up and walked out of the reception hall. I gave him a few minutes, then I went to go find him. He was in the bathroom, the door wasn't locked, and I heard him crying before I even pushed it open. Babe, I said, Are you okay? He looked at me with tears streaming down his face. She's pregnant. They've been together for three years and she's already pregnant. I know it's hard, I started to say, trying to comfort him. You don't get it, he cut me off. He has everything now. A wife, a baby coming? I'll never have that. Okay. I froze. What do you mean you'll never have that? We're still trying. We could no, he said, shaking his head. We can't. I can't, but not with you. These words hit me like a truck. Not with me? What the hell does he mean? Yeah. What does he mean? He went pale and I started backtracking immediately. That's not what I meant. I just meant the timing wasn't right and we're not who is she? What? Who is she? He didn't answer. He just stared at me. I pulled out my phone. I'd been suspicious for months, but kept telling myself I was paranoid. He came home late. He spent more time at the gym, being secretive with his phone. I checked our phone bill two weeks ago and saw hundreds of texts to another number. I'd already looked the number up and I know exactly who it was. Her name is Emma, I said. She's 26. She works at your office, and you've been texting her 40 50 times a day for the last four months. His face told me everything. How long? I asked. It's not what you think. How Fucking long since January, he whispered. Seven months. He's been cheating on me for seven months while I was tracking my ovulation, taking my prenatal vitamins, and thinking we were in this together. Does she know you're married? He nodded. Does she know that we've been trying for a baby? Another nod. I laughed. Actually, I laughed. It was either laugh or scream. This is why you wanted to stop trying, I said, because you already were planning a future with her. I didn't plan this, he said. It just happened. I fell in love with her. She gets me ways you never did. She's fun, spontaneous, and she actually wants kids. Not like what? Not like me, I said. I've been begging you for a baby for two years. With her, it's different. Natural. With you, it's more like a chore, like something you just need to check off your list. I wanted to hit him. I wanted to throw something. Instead, I reached into my purse. I need to show you something, I said. I pulled out an envelope inside where divorce papers. I'd had them all drawn up three days ago after I'd confirmed the affair. My lawyer had been just waiting for me to serve them. But I also added something that morning. Stapled to the front page was a pregnancy test. Positive. I'd taken it yesterday morning. Hadn't told anyone yet because I wanted to be sure. I'd been planning to tell him at the wedding and thought it might fix everything. Congratulations, I said, handing the envelope. You're going to be a father, just not with me. He opened it and saw the test and his hands started shaking. You're pregnant? Ten weeks, I said, which means it happened right before you said we should take a break. Funny timing, huh? Oh my god, he whispered. Oh my god, we're having a baby. No, I said, I'm having a baby. You're getting divorced. Papers are already filed, and my lawyer will contact you on Monday. Like drop. Wait, please, can't we work this out? He started. Work out what? You just told me you're in love with someone else. That she gets you and I don't. That you don't want kids. You sorry, you want kids with her and not me. I I didn't mean it like that. I was upset. I signed the papers, I said, you've got 30 days. After that, it doesn't matter whether you sign or not, it goes through anyway. But but the baby, you can decide if you want custody or not. Honestly, I hope you don't. You'd be a shit father anyway, if this is how you handle commitment. I started to leave and he grabbed my arm. Please, he said, don't do this. We can fix it. I'll end things with her. We'll go to counseling. We can be a family. I took I looked at his hand on my arm and said, let go of me. Just listen. The bathroom door opened. His brother walked in and took one look at the scene and said, What the hell is going on? My husband dropped my arm. I handed his brother the envelope. Your brother is having a baby, I said. Just not with who he thought. Congratulations on being an uncle twice over. What does that mean? Congratulations on being an uncle twice over. Joking maybe it's a typo? I don't know. Okay. His brother read the papers, saw the test, and looked at my husband with pure disgust. You cheated on her, he said. While she was trying to get pregnant? It's complicated, my husband said. It's really not, I said. I walked out and left him there with his brother and the divorce papers and the evidence of everything that just everything that he had just destroyed. I drove home, packed a bag, went to my sister's house. She held me while I cried for three hours straight. My husband's been blowing up my phone ever since, saying that he'd made a mistake. He wants to be there for me and the baby, that he loves me and we can work through this. His family's been calling too. His mum crying, his dad demanding we talk, his brother surprisingly on my side and telling everyone what happened. The woman he cheated with actually called me yesterday. She said she didn't know that he was trying for a baby with me and that he had told her that we'd basically separated months ago. She ended things with him immediately, and she found once she found out the truth. So now he's lost both of us. My family thinks I should at least hear him out for the baby's sake. That kids need their fathers, and I'm making the decision in anger that I'll regret. But all I can think about is him crying in that bathroom saying that he'll never have this with me while I was literally pregnant with his child. I don't know. Maybe I moved too fast with the divorce papers. Maybe I should have tried counselling at first. Am I the asshole? This sounds like a movie. Do you know why? It actually sounds like a made-up story. Yeah, like if this is somebody's, I mean, great story.
SPEAKER_00:If it was like, you know, it's just made up. Great storyteller. Because I am whooped.
SPEAKER_02:I need to know the outcome. I need to know if there's updates. Is there up? Okay. Just wait, let's hit get some top comments, okay? Oh, okay. Oh my god. Okay. Um wait, hang on.
SPEAKER_00:Is she the asshole? I don't think she's the asshole. I think she's she's pretty like fucking boom.
SPEAKER_02:But then also, I I think she kind of jumped into the divorce papers quite quickly, and I feel like probably didn't have to happen at the wedding and those sorts of things. So she I don't know. Yeah, so she had the divorce papers with the pregnancy tests. She was was she planning to give them to him at the wedding? Like she was going to give him to work. That's pretty asking. And like, how long? I mean, I feel like you don't want to jump to divorce straight away. Like, no, if I thought that old mate was having an affair, I'd kind of want to hash it out first. Yeah, they've not had a discussion about it first. She's got the proof, she's got that, and then just instead of saying, hey dude, there's all these texts, blah blah blah blah blah, and you know, like she's hatched him out maybe in private. Yeah. Maybe and call him out on, you know. It sounds like that he was having she knew about the affair even before she got pregnant. So was she wanting the baby more than the man?
SPEAKER_00:Maybe I'll see for me it sounds like she's she's only 10 weeks pregnant, so she might have only just kind of found out and was planning to tell him at the wedding.
SPEAKER_02:How long does it get to get divorce papers drawn up then?
SPEAKER_00:Well, I don't know. She might have only been like she got them three days earlier.
SPEAKER_02:Okay.
SPEAKER_00:So she only got divorce papers for three days.
SPEAKER_02:Okay, so that would all timeline-wise would work out.
SPEAKER_00:Yeah, so she's just done the pregnancy, like, you know, she's 10 weeks she might have visited periods, or she don't have my haven't had my period because you normally find about eight-week months. You do, you're right. So that 10-week month that kind of makes sense. Yeah, it does. She's kind of like found out. Found out she's pregnant, and then I'd say within or she's found out he's cheated, then found out she's pregnant, then got the divorce paper site. You know what I mean? I can feel that that's what's happened.
SPEAKER_02:Okay, so not the asshole. He made his choice, agreed. I can't get past a lot of things, but I can forgive most. But cheating is one thing I I could not and would not ever get past. Not the arsehole. Stay away from him. He doesn't get to be in the delivery room. He forfeited that privilege. Stay strong, not the asshole. Most people are just not the asshole. Your husband cheated on you. What he does and his family. Sorry, what does he and his family not understand? Okay, once a cheater, always a cheater. This is true. So, like all these things, yes, are true. Yeah, but then so now I'm gonna be the devil's advocate here. Please do. We need to. Oh, stop it.
SPEAKER_00:Wait, is there an update?
SPEAKER_02:Oh, no, there's not. Someone says get an abortion out of spite and making truly not a fat. What the hell? Who would write something? Uh, do you know what they put like an assholy emoji after it? So that's just someone's dick. Okay, I'm gonna play the devil's advocate here. So they've been trying for two years.
SPEAKER_00:Yeah, he's probably, I feel like having a bit of that, yeah. Well, when you're trying for a baby, when you're trying for a baby, it does become kind of labor-inducive. Like it consumes it does, doesn't it?
SPEAKER_02:Sex doesn't become fun anymore. It's like unpopulating.
SPEAKER_00:It becomes like, right, let's get this job done. So perhaps maybe now I'm not excusing his behaviour for cheating. What I am saying, I'm just looking, you know, from the outside in. Yeah. Maybe their intimacy level was he felt more transactional than that that lust, passion, yeah, yeah, yeah. Those sorts of things, and perhaps maybe he was seeking or he was getting that from somebody else, and one thing led to another. And you know, he cheated. Now, I don't think you know he's it probably was in a bit of a depressive state, perhaps, maybe possibly, yeah. I and her, like she would be feeling it too, then you know, having a break and those sorts of things that if you can't get pregnant or find hard to get pregnant, like it is just it consumes your whole being, I feel. Yeah, and it takes over your life, and I feel like a lot of people do end up separating. It is something that can make or break relationships. It is hard. I'm not excusing him cheating on her because everyone has a choice and you make that choice. He could have said communication comes back down to communication. He could have told her, Look, I'm can we take a break? Like I'm feeling you know, that all you want me for is the deposit.
SPEAKER_02:Yeah, and you know, I'm I'm not feeling maybe let's work on our relationship a little bit better, and if it happens, it happens. Well, that's it. They did decide to stop trying, and that seems to be when it's but he didn't communicate what he was, you know, he has gone and he stopped trying because he was having an affair, putting his deposit somewhere else, yeah. You know what I mean? So, like I feel, you know, everything problem-wise in relationships comes down to communication. Every single body, I think if you're trying for a baby or you are pregnant, I think it should be mandated that you go to couples counselling. Yeah. We were talking about that before. Yeah.
SPEAKER_00:I just think because when you have a baby, everything changes, and your priorities shift, and you come from different homes, different parenting backgrounds, different things, and you come together and you've got to kind of merge to make your own parenting style and your own ways of raising up a child, and what discipline, you know, things, and what how do you want to praise, do you know, toys and all of those sorts of things, and I think that and also when you have a baby, you kind of become parson chicks in the night because the mum's main role is the baby, yeah, and then the dad has to is providing, and then they also need to look after the mum, so the mum can look after the kid, yeah, and you know, I feel like it's big shifts from coming from two people to it is if it doesn't just happen I'm not gonna say naturally, but if it does, if it doesn't happen spontaneously, yeah, then and it becomes a ovulation temperature, checking all those things and stuff, it does then just become like yeah, it needs to be oh hi honey, I'm glad that you got home.
SPEAKER_02:Yep, can we just quickly get the dither done before you know we relax and watch TV because I'm ovulating, you know, like so they've they've actually got a bit of work to do to get in the mood. Do you know what I mean? Not you know, it's not always for a better word, you know, you're you're ready to go. Yeah, it's not on its A game as soon as you get home from work or whatever, like that. So you've got to like have a little think and think, right, okay, blah blah blah blah blah, let's try and get in the mood. I mean, whereas she's like, Do you know what? Just stick it in, get it done, let's come on, I've got dinner to cook, you know, let's we're just so then you do lose a little bit of the romance out of it. So that's been like that for like two years. I don't condone him finding sex other. We definitely just needed to chat about it to say, how about we do the whole ovulation thing and then like once a fortnight we just make love like we normally do, like dinner and all the nice drills and fluff and poor play and all the fun stuff, you know, like just not you know, get it in, get it done, get out again. Yeah, 100%. Uh there is a comment here which is like probably maybe my favorite. It's kind of like it just says, okay, there is nothing left to discuss. He cheated, he lied, he was going to leave you. End of story. Yeah. So yeah. His father can go to hell and he has no right to demand anything, because that's like back in one of the right at the end of the thing, it was like his dad demanded that they talk about it and stuff.
SPEAKER_05:Oh, yeah.
SPEAKER_02:And his mum's crying, saying that because she raised a lying, cheating asshole. She's she's married to the jerk, which is the kid's dad. Sit down with your parents, look them in the eyes, and say that you want me to stay with a man who cheated at me and lied to me for seven months and was preparing to dump me. You're damn right, I'm angry. You're all freaking hypocrites. The only thing I regret is having such pathetic parents. Don't count on having a relationship with my child if you don't want them to be and I don't want them influenced with your toxic bullshit and then walk out. You are strong, raise your child with truth, honesty, and remember your value. Your husband is weak, selfish, and jealous. You deserve better. That to me sounds like that. There was an update in here, but I don't see it. Because in the original story, it doesn't say anything about the parents and that their parents are. It does say something about the dad. Click on her profile. Okay, hang on, let me get up there.
SPEAKER_04:Is that it? Just there then maybe. No, hang on, okay, let me go. There you are.
SPEAKER_00:Let me I'm a little okay. Alright, let's investigate, shall we? Investigate.
SPEAKER_01:That's found an explosion.
SPEAKER_04:Well, I had an count five years ago. Was that deleted? I didn't say that it was, but it just sounded like edit with all updates. Yeah, I did say that Oh, it's like a video.
SPEAKER_02:Yeah. So when it jumped to that, I quickly got out of it because I was like, I don't want to watch no video.
SPEAKER_04:Oh well. Is that like a transcript? Ah, what the f I forgot it's touch screen.
SPEAKER_02:It is a transcript, isn't it? Yeah, there's a transcript down here. Let's have a look. Let's all mean read it.
SPEAKER_00:Show transcript. We are going deep here.
SPEAKER_04:Oh, so it talks about I look at your eyes working without glasses. It's amazing.
SPEAKER_02:Wish I knew where my good ones were. I don't know.
SPEAKER_00:I feel like this is this is a too hard basket.
SPEAKER_02:Yeah, it's that's what I was thinking too. Like, I feel like a lot of the comments were coming off the back of an update, and the update is like gone about. Yeah. Who frickin' knows, man? Anyway, I don't know. Who knows? Anywho, so that was that one. That was a goodie. Not too bad. Not too bad. Oh, right. So am I now? I'm just gonna do a basically I'm gonna pick one that I haven't read and hope to God that it's blue because I just there's so much to choose from, and I was very overwhelmed. Do you know what? My phone pings off because I've like joined so many groups, so I get like pings all the time, and I think, oh, that one's good, and I save it to notes, and then I get look at it, and I think, man, I don't like it anymore. I've got one here that I'm pretty excited about.
SPEAKER_00:Yeah, okay. So this right here I'm I'm looking at, it's not very long. It's small, but it's got 12,000 upvotes, 3,100 comments. So I feel like it might be worth it was close to 19 hours ago.
SPEAKER_02:Okay, yep. So for me, that's telling me that it's a goodie. Okay.
SPEAKER_00:My husband wakes me up multiple times every night. Throat punch him.
SPEAKER_02:Straight up, there's my answer. Yeah, well, if somebody interrupts my sleep, brother, uh dude, I feel like you have two children that do that. Yeah, they're okay. They're all right. Half the time I'm still breastfeeding. One and I'll fall asleep. We fall asleep together, and I end up with like hickeys over my boobs. From the baby. Can you imagine you imagine her going? Oh, wrong spot. There's nothing milk, no milk from that way. Yes, let's just clarify that. It's from my daughter. Yes, yes, my ten-three-month-old daughter. Oh my god, I cannot believe that. Oh, stop it. She's 11 months old. I mean, she is 11 now. Not yet. On the 16th. Oh my god, that's like only 10 days away. So I don't take two weeks.
SPEAKER_00:I still need to take a 10-month-old photo. I forgot the nine-month one.
SPEAKER_02:That wouldn't have happened with Miss Four. Yeah, no. I don't know. Imagine if you have a third, they're not even gonna get photos.
SPEAKER_03:Oh yeah.
SPEAKER_02:All right, back to the reading. Okay, I forty female am very health conscious, and I like to go to bed early around 9 30. That's not early. Not the asshole. That's not going to bed early is great. So it says 6 30 p.m. around here. You know what? Like I'm 7 30. No shit.
SPEAKER_03:It's past is it past your bedtime?
SPEAKER_02:It's like half an hour. Let's wrap this shit up. We're on the clock here. I stood up till 10 o'clock the other night, not New Year's Eve. New Year's Eve was 8 15. And I went to a party. And I was still home by 8 15. You party. Not about me.
unknown:Yes.
SPEAKER_02:I have a young child and I like to ensure that I get enough sleep. I feel like I need to read it in this accent. Oh, you're nice, prim and proper one. Yeah. Okay, let's start with that and see how the accent rolls. Okay. I like to ensure that I have and get enough sleep, even when working early. My husband, 39 male, chooses to go to bed a little bit later. I don't mind when I wake, he comes in. Oh, hang on. Lots of accent.
SPEAKER_00:I don't mind when I wake when I wake up when he comes. I don't mind when I wake up when he comes to bed. But lately he decides that he needs to turn on the bright overhead light and every time he every time he comes to bed. So I can so he can see to get himself ready to sleep. He used to just use the flashlight on his phone, but he says he doesn't want to do that because he feels like he has to tiptoe around.
SPEAKER_02:Brother, I feel like you should be tiptoeing around anyway. Your wife's asleep in bed. Yeah, that's arsehole. That is arsehole behavior. Is this from the subreddit Am I the Arsehole? Yes. Well, yep, that person is. The whole theme of this episode is Am I the Arsehole? It is, set for my next one. Kind of is. Okay. Alright.
SPEAKER_00:This is an issue for me because not only does he wake me up, but it makes it more difficult to fall back asleep because I'm more fully awake.
SPEAKER_01:Yeah.
SPEAKER_00:Yeah, because when they come in tiptoe and they like hop into bed, you'll feel movements, you're groggy, you go back to sleep, right? If you turn the light on, it's like hello.
SPEAKER_02:If your eyes are good morning. Yeah. Sorry, that was a bit loud. That's yeah, no, that's a pretty shit thing to do. When you're finished, I'm gonna tell you how I'll make this to bed. Right, two more paragraphs here. Yep, sure. I can wait. He also refuses to put his phone on do not disturb mode at night.
SPEAKER_00:I'm not even sure why, but just flatly refuses. I know it's very simple to set up on your phone, to accept messages and calls from certain numbers. I don't know why this would not be an option for him. It usually goes off at least once or twice a night, waking me up, though it does not seem to bother him. I've become increasingly frustrated with multiple wakings, and I've definitely yelled at him during the night. I find it disrespectful to another person who is a light sleeper not to make small, simple steps to help them sleep better. He sees it as me trying to control him. I have always been a light sleeper, and sleep has always been an issue between us. Am I the asshole? No, darling, you are not the arsehole.
SPEAKER_02:No, she's not the asshole. If he wants to be an obnoxious asshole like that, then go sleep in another bedroom.
unknown:Yeah.
SPEAKER_02:I don't know why I put an accent. I can't. Maybe it just feels like it needs one for this one. No, not the arsehole. Like you are Cory sleeping together, have some respect for each other. If she doesn't do that to him, you shouldn't expect it done to you. Exactly. Like she's going to bed at 9 30. That's not early. It's it's somebody that you love. And yeah. And if you're used to like t use your flashlight and tiptoe around, how about get ready for bed before she goes to bed? Like, how about put your pyjamas on so you don't need a torch? Yeah. What do you mean? And like yeah, yeah, and you like what do you do? Move your room around every fucking time you wake up. Like your room has probably been the same for the ten years that you've lived in your house. Yeah. If you've lived in that house for 10 years, like you just walk in, you can walk in with your eyes shut.
SPEAKER_00:And I know, like for so for in our house, we've got like a bathroom adjoining to our bedroom, right? There's no door that's separating. And sometimes, you know, the family have been asleep and I've still needed to shower and stuff like that.
SPEAKER_02:I just use my phone out. I tiptoe in. Yeah. Don't make a sound, put my phone mic in the shower if you're putting the light in the shower. You've got little people that sleep in your room. So you have the fear of God if waking everybody up. We have a little bit of a Would you still do the same if Jay was just in there? Or would you just know that he's just out of respect and love? Yes. Because yeah, I put a little night light on in the little the sicker one that the light night light switch that goes in there. So if you do need to have a late night shower, it's if I had kids sleeping in my room, I wouldn't even breathe. I would get ready and not breathe. I'd be like a snake. Fight up in the bedway. That'd be an over movement. But like, oh mate, when he gets up to go to work in the morning, like because sometimes I'm awake. I just don't want to have a conversation.
unknown:I pretend.
SPEAKER_02:I'm sometimes away, not always, but sometimes I'm awake, but I don't want to start talking because if I start talking, then I then you have to get up. Then I'm awake, you know. So I and he slithers around. Like he's he comes beside my bed with elf oil over a cup of tea. He used to put a horse on. Yeah, yeah, no, but he gets the shakes now. So it's like, get it, get a bit again. So now it's like elf oil over the top. And then just right next to my bed, so it's still nice and hot for whatever time I wake up. And then like, but he he has a goes to the toilet, has a shave, gets dressed, gets everything done, and I'm only awake. Sometimes I go back to sleep because he is so careful. There's he only turns the light on once he shuts the bathroom door. It's not like just turning it on too. You know, that's respect and kindness. So for me, when I'm working and he's not, I just get out of bed and come back because I have a different bathroom to him. But so I don't make noise or anything like that. But it's respect kindness because you love the person. Yeah. I don't want to wake him up. If he's having a snuggle, then sleep. Stay asleep.
SPEAKER_00:Well, that's like Jane when he uh if he's gonna go to work early in the morning, whatever, and I'm asleep. Sometimes I'll be like, Oh, he'll always kiss me goodbye and it on my forehead. But stroke post I'm like, I I don't feel it, and I'm like, yeah, kiss me goodbye. And he's like, Yes, I do, but like that yeah, still quiet, that light.
SPEAKER_02:Sometimes I don't even know. She should not be getting woken up. No. I mean, I get woken up numerous times because old mate's breathing machine blows out air, but that's not a part of this story. He gener he doesn't know he's doing that. So I do put a pillow over his face, but that's he can still breathe, people. Like here's a CPAP machine and he can still breathe. That'll put a pillow over it just there. Buffalo the sound. Yeah, do I because the air comes escaping out, and you're just like getting air blowing on you, because that's what a CPAP machine does. It compresses air and puts down the airway so you can the airway stay off and you don't snore. But like if it's not sitting properly on the face, air escapes. There's a misfortune.
SPEAKER_00:He doesn't want to have a sleepover with him.
SPEAKER_02:Pillow over his face. And he can breathe, so I'm not trying to kill him. Okay. All right, we ready for this one? Yeah, go on. Okay. Okay, there's some names here that are a little tricky, so I will probably be destroying them. I apologize. First up, sorry, I'm just picking dirt out of my now. Okay, looking for some help to see if I'm in the wrong about not telling my wife the name we picked for our child is in a bookslash TV show.
SPEAKER_04:Any thoughts?
SPEAKER_02:Not telling where the name came from. So, like if you have a baby and you want to call it Rumpel Stiltskin and she, your husband says, Oh my god, that's such a great name, where'd it come from? You're not saying, Oh, it's actually a book. And the name Rumpel Stiltskin came from a book character. Why you want to keep it a secret? I don't know. I just say, Oh, I read it in a book, like the name.
SPEAKER_00:Unless it's but he would okay, read it. My brain's not brain and I can I can I just I put too many options in my own.
SPEAKER_02:Okay. So this isn't the usual. I wanted to name my kid Anakin Leah Gojo. I'm sorry, what? Okay. So okay, so it's like I'm googling it. Okay, so it's A-N-A-K-I-N A-N-A. K-I-N. And then the next name is L E I A. I'm sure I'm assuming that's what Leah? Would you say Leah for that? Leila? No, no, it's not also Leah. Yeah. And then G-O-J-O. G-O-J-O. Oh, it's anime. I was gonna say, I think it's like I was gonna say Pokemon, but anime.
SPEAKER_00:Yeah. Okay.
SPEAKER_02:Do you reckon that's how you would say it? Yeah, well, there's like there's an Anakin Skywalker and Anakin Jojo. Gojo. Gojo.
SPEAKER_00:Gojo.
SPEAKER_02:And would you say, for the sake of this, would you say L E I A would be Leah? Leia Leia? Leia? Leia, maybe? Leia. Maybe it's Leia. Alright. And my spouse didn't know where it came from. Situation. This has turned into a real issue between my wife and I, and both of our families are refusing to take sides because they feel no one was intentionally in the wrong. I'm just looking for an outside perspective on whether what I did was that bad. For an anomaly anonymous. So being anonymous. The name or the series, but we've just done it. It is anime.
SPEAKER_00:Yes, it is.
SPEAKER_02:I feel yeah. Well, I mean, anyone can Google the name. If you're not sharing, sorry, that's just stupid. Yeah, okay, but for this person, that's what they're doing. Okay. For context, my wife, 35 female, and I, 33 male, just had our first child two weeks ago. We had our baby's name picked out before she even got pregnant. My wife has kept a list of names for years. And when she showed it to me, her number two choice stood out. It also happened to appear in a childhood book series that I'd love and has relevance to my heritage. She knew about the heritage connection, but never mentioned the book series. We both generally loved the name and agreed it would be our first choice. No pressure, no convincing, just very neutral. Since we are both on maternity paternity leave, every couple of days we take an hour to relax together and watch TV with the baby. It's our way of decompressing from the new parent stress. That sounds lovely. Okay, that's like it's too excited. Okay, I make snacks and drinks and we take turns holding or feeding the baby, etc. Recently, the book series I logged was adapted to a TV show. My wife never read the books but was interested in watching the show. While watching, she realized the name we chose appears in the series. Well, not the main character, but a recognizable one. She asked if I had known, and I said yes. But since it wasn't the main character, I didn't think it was worth mentioning. She became extremely upset and said she never wanted our child's name to come from a book or TV show. I tried to explain to her at this point. Almost any name could be connected with some fictional character somewhere. That didn't help. She started crying quietly, though, as to not wake the baby, and barely spoken to me since, except when it except when it's about strict childcare issues. I've tried apologizing multiple times. It's been two days and she's still very distant. This is completely out of character for her. Previously we talked through issues, even difficult ones, and I'm starting to worry because this reaction feels intense, especially so soon after giving birth. Edit. Because I see a lot of people saying it already, we did have a discussion about names. It was never brought up that she didn't want to choose a name from a book or TV or movie. Also, the name may be unique in the US, not that much, but in the TAR, but in two other cultures, including my name, is not unusual and we both like that part of it. There is um there's a lot of comments and OPs and stuff. Is there anything you want to say at this minute?
SPEAKER_04:No, I just like I don't know.
SPEAKER_02:I'm a little bit dumbfounded, really, because I'm like you wouldn't you I don't understand why he just didn't say and I but I'm sort of I for her, I don't care yeah, I don't care. I don't know, I understand why she's having a name, yeah, and it's got heritage to him, and it was on her list now that it's just from a character. Oh, maybe she doesn't want people to think that the baby's named from that character. Maybe the character's not a great character, yeah. You know, like but also it's kind of been like, you know, it was a popular it's not popular in the US, but it's popular in there culture.
SPEAKER_04:Yeah. Like I just anyway, moving on.
SPEAKER_02:Yeah, what's a top comment on this one? Okay, so okay, I didn't get there yet, okay? Yeah, it's just a thing. All right, it's a big thing. Alright. Oh it's a big story. Edit two, okay. Oh my gosh, it's I will give Okay, so I'll just give some context to this. If the series was Hunger Games, we would name our child Effie. So the series is an anime thing. Yeah, yeah. So but if it was Hunger Games, it'd be Effie, not the main character, so it's not what's the main character's name? Oh, I know it's Jackie Lawrence, but like the thing. Oh, what is the Mocking Day? Yeah, what is her name? Oh my god, I literally just watched all this the other day. I watched the mocking day and watched it all Katnis. Yeah, so Katniss. So so it's not Katniss, but it'd be Effie. So this is like it's not sat and saying, so it's like a spin-off, yeah, not the main character. So relevant and top comments. And Effie's cute and nasty. I do like Effie. Yeah, like she's not nasty, so no, she's not, except for she. But I actually do like the name Effie. It's kind of cute.
SPEAKER_00:Yeah, yeah.
SPEAKER_02:Except for like if you're pissed off and you tell someone F off, maybe it's just Effie off. Effie off. Okay, commentate. This is a very distinct name. I know you said it's not a ridiculous name like Anakin, but you're still sorry. I know you said it's not a ridiculous name like Anakin. I thought the kid's name is Anakin. But you're still being a little vague, and it's supposedly noteworthy enough for your spouse to pick up on it on her own. I'd like to ADK, is that I'd like to know? I'd like to know. I don't know. I think it's a little hard to tell without at least knowing the TV series. So maybe it's not Anakin. Let me go back up there. I wanted to name my kid Anakin. What did I say? Layla Giorgio, and my spouse didn't know where the name was. I don't know. I felt like that's what the kid's name was. There's an Anakin in Star Wars.
SPEAKER_01:Is there?
SPEAKER_02:Okay, anyway, let's keep going. OP says, I'll say it's not as common. Maybe we still don't even know the name then. I'd say it's not as common as Edward, Luke, Jason, but not crazy specific like Bella, Clarice, or Peter. I'm so freaking confused. Me too. Can we get a comparable name series so we can get an idea of how connected the name is to the books? And if you said it is associated with an unsavoury or bad character, oh I wonder if it's like what about people calling their kids like looser?
SPEAKER_01:Oh yeah. What if there's a connection to like bloody porn star or something? No, who knows?
SPEAKER_02:Like if your wife had never read Percy Jackson and you guys named your kid Grover, then suddenly Grover is a teenage goat man on the show series she's watching. The connection might be might bother her because now she's associating her baby with Satan with a I don't know what's that word, S-A-T-Y-R. S-A-T-Y. How are you saying? S A T Y R. What is that?
SPEAKER_01:Sata Sata.
SPEAKER_02:One of class or lustful drunken woodland gods. Right, okay. Also, she just had a baby, and had she known beforehand, there's a chance it wouldn't have bothered her, but finding out that you lied by a mission while she's in postpartum, maybe making her act out of character, just something to consider. That's a oh okay. That's like it's like devil horny, yeah, not horny, but like with devil horns type of thing. I don't think you really did anything wrong, especially if she never mentioned wanting a book name, blah blah blah blah blah. We just want more information. OP says, like I said, it's somewhere else, but the closest comparison is Effie from Hunger Games. So this guy's making me like really mad now. It's not actually saying it. If you're not gonna like stop beating her out of the fucking bush. Yeah. So what does this commenter say? From what I understand, it was her name suggestion, so it just didn't have and it just so happened that it connected to your heritage and a TV show book character. I don't think you did anything wrong personally. I doubt that you withheld that information knowing that it would upset her. It's not that important that you have to mention to mention it in a similar situation. I just thought it was cool in my head and not really give it another thought. So that person's just saying they would just think it's really cool that they kind of come up with the same name and not give it a real thought. This is like pissing me off because you need to know what it is.
SPEAKER_05:Yeah.
SPEAKER_02:Update. Okay. Let me just have a quick scan through the update and let's see if we actually find out. Chloe, have a chat to everyone about something while I just quickly find out about things. Find out. Well, I was just while we're doing that, I was gonna search for more stories, but no, you have to just talk about something. Me too, actually. Um that glass of wine feel like I want it to come over this one now, but I think it's more water that I want.
SPEAKER_00:Yeah, do you know what? I really need to keep up drinking water. I'm being really bad at drinking water lately.
SPEAKER_02:Well, you're breastfeeding, you should be drinking.
SPEAKER_00:I know, I know. It's a problem. And I yeah, I just it's really hard to remember, but then you can set alarms on your phone, and I don't say see, this is why I'm getting ADHD diagnosed. Um, don't drink water, that's why.
SPEAKER_02:Okay.
SPEAKER_00:Sorry.
SPEAKER_02:All right, there's people that think that they've worked out the name. Oh, I love some light little internet salutes. Okay, so all right, update. Wife became mad after finding out our child's name is that of a character in a book TV series. Okay, hey everyone. After all the helpful advice, I thought you might want an update. It may not be what you're expecting. A lot has happened in the last week, and now I'm not only and I'm only now physically able to respond. Let they chop your hands off. Like, what's he doing? Anyway, okay, whatever. There's been a lot of pain, difficult conversations, and some healing, but it's still going to take time for both of us. The first several comments mentioned PPD, postpartum depression, and offer suggestions on how I could help my wife. Two days after my post, I went to pick up a Few things to help her relax and create some separation between mum life and her personal life. Unfortunately, that trip didn't go well. I was also involved in a serious car accident, and I don't remember much because I was in and out of consciousness. The next thing I remember is waking up in the hospital with my wife asleep beside me holding my hand. Did not see that turn of events happening. That just took a bit of a detail. Ah, he just made it all about him now. Yeah. Oh my gosh, he's just had a baby and now he's gonna go have a car accident, mate. Fuck hell. No, not really, mate. I hope you're okay. Okay. When she woke up, she immediately started apologizing and blaming herself. And she said that she didn't think she could ever forgive herself if I if I hadn't made it, especially since she hadn't told me how much she loved me before I'd left. I asked about our baby, and she told me that that they would be with her parents and I didn't need to worry about that now. We sat together while the doctors explained everything. I had a concussion, bruised rib, broken arm. Thankfully, pay mes helped a lot. After we were alone, my wife finally told me the real real reason why she'd been so angry over the past two weeks. It had nothing to do with the name, some additional context. While my wife was pregnant, I used that time to get into better shape. I wasn't severely overweight and I'd already worked out, but I wanted to step in up knowing I'd have less time after the baby arrived. During this, my wife became increasingly resentful because she was struggling with her body image issues during and after pregnancy. She believes postpartum hormones had made her feelings worse, and in her mind, she convinced herself I might cheat on her. She had started seeing therapists before our flight, but when she realized where the name came from, she just snapped. I didn't want to blame her for any of this, and I just wish she had told me sooner, not after something serious had happened. We both cried and spent the rest of the day talking until I was released from hospital. We are now back home communicating much more openly, and we're definitely in a better place. And we both agreed that couples therapy would solidify the progress we had started. Thank you to everyone who offered advice, and I hope that you all have a wonderful new year. I've got lots to say on that, but I'll just read these first. Comment to one, that's a great update apart from the accident. Hope you guys get well soon and you and your wife continue to work things out. Dan, that's heavy update. I'm glad you're okay. The instant really pulled things into perspective. Sounds like real communication finally happened. Therapy and honesty are the right move. Wishing you both healing and karma road ahead. I just want to say something, just at the top there. I actually think it's kind of an asshole move while her body is changing so much. I'm glad you're saying this because he's just like, bam, I'm gonna get hot and fucking sexy before I can while you're all getting like fuck that shit. Like, I don't even want, I don't want him to get out of shape and stuff like that. That's not about that. But don't go getting fucking buffed up at the gym. So just because you're not gonna get, nah, I'm annoyed with him for that. Like yeah, I am too. When he said that, I was like, I am biting my tongue. Because like, even when I was pregnant, I couldn't walk. Like, I no, you for like 10 weeks you were having that severe hit. Yeah, that what's it called, pelvic girdle pain. I couldn't even walk properly. I had to wear braces and supports. Like, I would like look at people walking down the thing, and I would be so jealous.
SPEAKER_00:So if you know, and like oh nah, if I couldn't just do something like normal, yeah, and then your partner's going off and being like, oh fucking, fuck yeah, I'm gonna be like all tank and buff.
SPEAKER_02:I know. That's not okay. No, I mean, if he was doing that before and it was just a part of his routine, but he said he amped it up. Okay, he amped it up. Well, sorry about the accident, but anyway, what's the kid's fucking name? Oh yeah, we still haven't got to that. Oh no, it's obviously not Anakin. I mean I'm glad that's a bizarre name. But okay, so let me just have a little fish through. Sorry, it said which Percy Jackson character did they accidentally name their kid after? Jump onto Percy Jackson. Percy Jackson did they say they named after Percy Jackson? No, but I don't know, that's what everyone's on about. So it is the Leah?
SPEAKER_00:Okay, hang on, let me.
SPEAKER_02:T H A L I A. Thalia.
SPEAKER_00:Oh T H A L I A? Yeah. Yeah, okay, so again, it's an anime kind of thing. The Leah. So they reckon that's what the name is.
SPEAKER_02:Yeah. I'm not familiar with that character from Percy Jackson. I only read the first one in the series, I've only encountered the Talia or Talia variant of the name, but I associate Yeah, Thalia. So like we're just gonna have to say that I don't hate it. But like weird that she would have Thalia as her number two on her list. Like that's a name I would never come up with, even if I was just randomly putting letters together. Yeah. Anyway, I do have another one.
SPEAKER_00:Yes, I also have another one, and I think that we might pop these over on Patreon. I reckon we should too.
SPEAKER_02:Do you reckon we should just do teasers just to see if people want to do that? Yeah, if they want to listen to more stories, listen to more of us ranting on. Yeah. What's your title? Okay. Am I the jerk? Okay, so am I the jerk? Which is like I guess the same subreddit as like Am I the Arsehold? Am I the jerk for installing a hidden camera in my own bathroom after my husband dismissed my concerns about a mystery hair showing up? Bum bum bum bum.
SPEAKER_00:And my one here is Am I the arsehole for breaking up with my partner of three years after she came out as transgender?
SPEAKER_01:How do you not know after three years?
SPEAKER_00:Well, we can soon find out.
SPEAKER_02:Okay, mine was posted two days ago. Do you remember that Friends episode? Little black curly hair. Phoebe, she Phoebe made up songs on Friends. Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. So this is just mine like dismiss my concerns about a mystery of hair showing up. She wrote a song, little black curly hair. How did you get there? Little black curly hair. Let's see if I can. I don't want to get done for I found you in my bed. How'd you wind up in our Mr. Ree? Little black curly hair. Little black, little black, little black, little black, little black. Well, I love the internet sometimes. Anywho, that's my my next story. Yeah, cool. All right, so what's yours? I told you. Oh, you did too. Yeah, I did. But yeah, anyway, that's us signing off for first episode of 2026. It was a good one. We are coming out with Patreon this year. So if you would like to hear those extra bonus stories, then you can jump on over there and listen to those. And oh, and there is a little something, something going on. You are going, Chloe's going to teach me a little bit more how this system works. So, because we want to start putting more on our Instagram things that we do and like things that we've said that we're going to put up. Like there's been a few times that we were going to put things up and pictures and stuff like that. And then we just lie live passing fire. We haven't done it because Chloe is really busy and I do have more time than her. And I'm just not very tech savvy. But that's okay. So two generations, yeah. That's right. So hopefully that will be happening 2026 too. A little bit more context on our Instagram for you to look at. Are we going to start recording ourselves too? Yeah, I do want to start doing some video recording as well. I mean, obviously, we won't be able to sit in this position. I was gonna say, I feel like we need to change how we're sitting though, because there it's all gonna be like attracting the wrong crowd again, because this is not a good angle for us. Because I don't, yeah, we're attracting the wrong crowd. Do we I can't even remember? No, I think our stories will start to that crowd will start to stop listening. Do you think? Anyway, two months wild is thank you for coming over. Yeah, well, yeah, well, thank you for letting me be here. All righty. All right, Addy off, Katya. Bye, bye.
