Mums Gone Wild
Mums Gone Wild: Two Generations, Zero Filters
Join a mother-daughter duo as they dive into Reddit’s wildest posts, tackle your juiciest write-ins, and dish out advice with zero filters. Expect laughs, chaos, and real talk because we are not therapists but we are never shy about giving our two cents. From hilarious stories to heartfelt moments, Mums Gone Wild is where generations collide, comedy thrives, and the conversation is always unfiltered.
Mums Gone Wild
From Fantasy to Fallout
A neighbour crush, a hard boundary, and a twist that no one saw coming. We start with a viral Reddit saga where a woman falls for her married neighbour, rewrites his family life to fit her fantasy, and gets reality-checked in a single text when he finds her post. It’s a crash course in boundaries, projection, and why kindness is not a coded invitation. We slow down and ask the hard questions: what does respect look like when attraction collides with commitment, and how do you check your story against the facts in front of you?
Then the floor drops out. A husband becomes convinced his wife is pregnant, ignoring negative tests and shutting her out. What reads like obsession turns out to be a medical emergency. We walk through the red flags of sudden personality shift, agitation and fixation, and why “get seen, now” is sometimes the only advice that matters. The diagnosis—brain tumour—reshapes everything. We talk safety plans, hospital teams, palliative decisions, and the guilt and anger that crash over caregivers. This is grief in real time: love, rage, bargaining, deep fatigue and the small bright moments that pierce through.
To catch our breath, we end with a gentle win: two best friends of decades realise they’ve been a couple in all but name. It’s tender, funny and obvious in hindsight, and we dig into how to move from unspoken to defined—weekly check-ins, clear language, protecting both romance and friendship. Across every story, one thread holds: reality first. Respect boundaries. Treat behaviour change as a health signal. Name love when it’s mutual, and walk away when it isn’t. If this episode moved you, follow the show, leave a review to help others find us, and tell us which story stayed with you most—your voice shapes what we do next.
Welcome to Mum's Gone Wild, the show where Reddit meets Real Talk and Chaos meets comedy. I'm Chloe. And I'm Paula. Every week we'll dive into Reddit's wildest posts and juiciest write-ins. Warning, the advice you're about to hear is completely unsolicited, mildly unhinged, and definitely not professional.
SPEAKER_02:But hey, we're not therapists, but that's never stopped us from giving our opinions anyway. So let's get unhinged.
SPEAKER_01:We tried to use our fancy new microphones and they immediately failed us. They recorded us like we would try to start a cobble box underwater. A literal potato could have done better. So instead of making yourself through that audio disaster, we decided to just cut it. You didn't miss anything except us panicking and pretending we knew what we were doing. Anyway, on to the stories. I fell in love with my married neighbour, then I babysat his kids. Now I'm questioning my feelings.
SPEAKER_02:Okay. There's a little bit of wrong going on over here.
SPEAKER_01:Mm-hmm. Okay. So it was posted on Best of Redditor updates and it was posted three years ago. Okay. So we've got a few updates. Excellent. Okay. Cool. Trigger warnings though for this one. There is none. No trigger warnings. No trigger warnings. No trigger warnings. And I don't want, I don't want to give you any spoilers.
SPEAKER_02:Okay. All right, let's dive right in.
SPEAKER_01:Diving in the deep end. Oh, that's the thing. Yeah, diving in the deep end. Alright, okay. Okay, first of all, I am new to Reddit. So sorry if there's any mistakes or something. I obviously can't talk about this with any of my friends or my mum. But then I saw a Reddit post on TikTok and I thought this would be a good place to talk about this. I'm going to post this in a couple of different places based on what came up when I Googled best Reddit's to post on for advice. So I'm sorry if this shows up in multiple times. Finally, I know you are all going to judge me, but at least try and understand my side. So I am a 34-year-old woman. And seven months ago, I had a messy breakup with my long-term boyfriend. So I moved in with my best friend and her husband in a house where we're all renting together. It was then I met my neighbor, who I will call Kay. He helped us move our stuff into the house and I was instantly smitten. We live in the suburbs of a major city, so we both ended up taking the train into work at the same time each day. I knew Kay had a wife and his kids very early on. He talked about them often and pictures of them on his lock screen, social media, etc. However, initially it started out as just very innocent, a silly crush. He is handsome and funny and sweet. The first time we rode the train, he asked me about my job and seemed genuinely interested in what I was saying, which was something my ex never did. And it's something we fought over a lot. He is always doing things for his kids, like bringing home treats and stuff for them, staying on the phone with his older daughter the entire ride to work because she needed a pep talk before a school presentation. It was just easy to imagine how loving and attentive Kay would be with me because he's like that with everybody else. Kay has never said or done anything to imply that he has feelings for me yet. But we are genuinely friends by now because we talk on the train, which is about a 20-minute ride, almost every weekday. I never have trouble getting the attention of men, and with this basis, we have already, I know that we could easily become something more. Shut it down, lady. I know. Shut it down. I also learned shortly after I developed feelings for him that his wife is someone I went to school with. And I was surprised because they are polar opposites. He is funny, she is dry, he is exciting, she is cautious. He's a little dumb. She is very smart intellectually. Well, I kind of feel like if someone's smart so intellect uh anyway.
SPEAKER_02:Oh, you can have strict smarts. Oh, yeah, true, true, true. Yeah, yeah.
SPEAKER_01:So she's just academically very switched on. Looks wise. This feels mean, but yikes. I just don't think that their personalities fit very well together at all. And I can easily see Kay getting stuck in a relationship because he's just so nice. I feel like this lady is manifesting a story in her head. She is romanticising, she is I was gonna say exact same.
SPEAKER_02:She's manifesting problems with a wife. Yeah. And she could also be not even herself around, she could just be chameleoning, like just fitting into how she thinks the perfect person for him would be.
SPEAKER_01:Yeah. Do you know what I mean? The issue is that yesterday evening Kay knocked on my door and asked if I could watch his kids for a bit. This was, of course, no trouble. I said yes right away. He told me that his wife had gotten into a car accident while away on a business trip, and because she is pregnant, he was super worried and had booked the next flight out to see her. They don't have any family in the state currently, so he asked me to keep an eye on them for a few hours while a family friend drove several hours to come and watch them for the night. Now, this is where the issue came in. These kids were an absolute nightmare. There were three girls. The oldest was your typical bratty preteen times 1000. She was rude and didn't respect my authority at all, arguing with me about everything from dinner to who will clean up to what movies she was allowed to watch. I even heard her call me a bitch under her breath a couple of times. Well, she was only there for a few hours and she's already a bitch. I feel like you can't come into somebody's house and start demanding authority. Yeah, being authorit. Yeah. I even heard her call me, oh yeah, I even called her a bitch on the moment a little lila. The middle was rowdy and constantly wanted to play loud, messy games, even when I told her no. The youngest was mostly sweet and quiet on her own, but she joined in with whatever drama the middle one wanted to create. It culminated me into agreeing to play hide and seek with the younger two and ended up getting locked out of the house. When I went back and tried to convince oldest to let me in through the back door, she pretended she couldn't hear me and put her headphones in. Fucking hate that. Thankfully, the family friend arrived a few minutes later and let me in, and I went home. This makes me sad because before now I would often dream about being a stepmum to Kay's kids one day because of how highly he would talk about them. Now I want nothing to do with them. But at the same time, this is further proof that Kay and his wife are not happy because children from a happy home do not behave like this. Oh, says her with all her children. Tell me you're not a parent without telling you're not a parent. Yeah. I just want to have a relationship with Kay, but I do not know if that is possible because his kids and I would not get along. This is even before a potential divorce where their mother could easily get them to hate me. I really love Kay and I know we could have a beautiful relationship if I pursued this, but this has really shaken me. I just wish I had someone to talk about this to. But everyone in my life would just judge me. Girlfriend, I'm judging you hard, and I am not in your life.
SPEAKER_02:Yeah, no, she well, I guess that's why we have Reddit so she can offload and get well. This is so good on her for turning to Reddit to in her mind. She's already pictured a life with him away from his kids. That's the one that she's romanticizing. Is him being his charming self on the train, talking to his children, and she's just like he's God's gift to women, but he's not, he's a family man, and he loves his kids. He does, and he's she just got thrown in the deep end to have us spent a few hours with them. They're not going to make her life easy, they're just gonna be the kids. I would beg to differ that they're even bratty, they're just children, and he's had those children since birth.
SPEAKER_01:He knows what all of their little quirks are, and and kids turn it on for other people, but also I think she's forgetting that their mum was in a car accident and pregnant. Yeah, so those kids will be already, you know, dads just had to fly to another country. Somebody, you know, the anxiety that they're already going, you you're only there for a couple hours, just let them be. Let them if the teenager wants to do a thing, you know, you don't have any parental control, who cares what she's gonna watch? Like, that's not you know, you're fine, you're happy, kids are happy.
SPEAKER_02:Like, just keep the peace. I wonder whether she stepped in there in the mindset, like, I'm just going to pretend to be their stepmum and see how it feels for a minute. Yeah. She's already thinking that she has the prowess to remove this man from his marriage. Like, she's living that life in her own fantasy work. 34.
SPEAKER_01:Yeah, I feel like that's very immature thinking. Like, I would expect that maybe from like a 19-year-old. Yeah, yeah, yeah. She's not a baby. But she's like, you know. Anywho, there's a bit of a notable comment exchange here. Okay. Okay. So it says, honestly, it doesn't sound like you love him, you romanticize him, and have a fantasy life in your head. You act like he would drop his wife and run away with you. You justify this belief by saying his children are wild, so it must be an unhappy home. Meanwhile, you completely ignore the fact that his wife is pregnant and he dropped everything to go to her. You say the kids do not respect your authority. It sounds like they barely know you, and suddenly you're in charge. You are not their mother, and you will never be their mother. You think you have a beautiful relationship with Kay? If you pursued him, no, you wouldn't. He has a family that he clearly loves. Just because he is nice to you does not mean he wants you. I encourage you to discuss things with the professional because this is not healthy. OP responds to that.
SPEAKER_02:100% though, like he's they're having a baby, so that alone means that they're still intimate together. Yeah, yeah, yeah. He loves her, and OP hasn't mentioned anything about they're gone for round four of children. Like you're in there for the long run. Like, yeah, I mean, they probably are that like that little hope of having a little boy because they've got three girls, so they're probably, but this is like they're putting in, like you said, the hard yards. They are in it together forever, and he is just a kind, nice man, surrounded by already four women, three girls and a wife. He's going to talk easily with all women because that's all he knows. She needs to, she's like living in Sims world. Yeah, yeah.
SPEAKER_01:I think she's a bit a little bit delulu. She goes on to say, how do you know whether or not I love him? Are you inside my head? You can love someone before being in a relationship with them. And just like I don't know for sure that he loves me, you don't know that he doesn't. You never know until you cross that bridge. I know he wouldn't just drop everything and run away with me. There would be months or even years of divorce court, custody arrangements, etc., if he decided to leave his wife. And before the comments come in, yes, I know there's no guarantee that he will do that, but Kay is a good, honest man. If anything were to happen between us, he would absolutely leave his wife because it wouldn't be fair to either of us. And he told me he believes in strong, honest fairness. That's why I'm asking. I know it could be a messy situation if anything happened. I just want to know if his kids being difficult will make things worse. If it does happen, I want to know if the potential pros outweigh the potential cons. There is no he is just nice because he is nice. And it has been polite and neighborly. Like, you know, I'm friends with my neighbours across the road. We went around there, knocked on their door at eight o'clock at night the other night because we needed help with something. Uh, excuse me, I'm 12 houses away. Well, you was when were Tom in the caravan and all the connection things, and they're like mechanics. So they're it was their It was the a them thing, not a me thing. They all come out and they're all searching, and I'm like, okay, hands up, I'm going inside and leave the boys do the boy things and everything was fixed. Oh, that's good. Yeah, so you know all right, I will stand down.
SPEAKER_02:She is making in her mind to have a life with him. Can you imagine? Like, she did talk about custody arrangements. Like thinking you are all gonna have to live in your little fantasy world, and he will have those three kids on your time, and they already hate you, and you're just the neighbor. Can you imagine if you're the one that made their families separate? She is going to that teenager is gonna do some wicked voodoo on her.
SPEAKER_01:I cannot believe she's already thought about like the even the years of divorce.
SPEAKER_02:She's in there, she's deep, deep girlfriend. She's visioning him beside her at nighttime, and he is happy in his own little marriage. She needs to catch a different train in the morning for her own, you know, like she's wanting help. She needs to, and you know, not judgment. So, you know, I'm just gonna be kind to her and help her remove herself from that situation. Yes, start walking, walk off that pent-up energy. Friggin' fly a fucking kite there. I don't care how she gets to work now, she needs to get off that train.
SPEAKER_01:Mm-hmm. Sorry, I'm finding it very hard to actively listen because the next update is wild. Okay and I'm just looking at it and I'm like, shut up, mum, let me read. I can biting my nails because there's a text message exchanged. She oh my god, is she going in with this? Is she grooming? I have I have transcript of a screenshot. Fuck off. See, I'm telling you, I was like, hurry up and stop talking. I'm I'm mad at her. Okay. Life and the girls are okay. Thank you for watching the girls. Oh, so he just texts saying thank you.
SPEAKER_02:Right. Okay, that's nice.
SPEAKER_01:OP. Of course. Anytime. Smiley face. Let me know if there's anything else I can do. Your kids are great. Okay, thumbs up emoji. Oh, so he's like not even. He's just like, shut the conversation down. Okay. Sends the link to this Reddit post.
SPEAKER_02:So he initiated another conversation after the thumbs up. He sent a link to her.
SPEAKER_01:He sent the link of this Reddit post that I've just read.
SPEAKER_02:So he's on Reddit and he read this. He says, is this she just like instant wet her parents like she would be instant panic?
SPEAKER_01:He says. Because if it is, we need to talk. I promise you that I have absolutely no interest in leaving my family for you. I'm sorry if I ever gave you the wrong idea, but I don't see you as anything more than just a neighbor. I don't think we should be friends anymore. OP.
SPEAKER_02:Wait, OP.
SPEAKER_01:Oh my god, I've got chest pain. The end. Oh my god, that's it. Like, oh my god. No updates. Oh my god! I want to pull my face off.
SPEAKER_02:That's it. Oh fucking hell.
SPEAKER_01:I'm surprised it's even still up and this hasn't been deleted. And well, it's actually uh I think it was deleted. And somebody, because like you know, there's a lot of Reddit sleuths on here. Yeah, somebody's reposted it onto another page, and so once it's on Reddit, it kind of stays on. You can delete it. And she did say right at the top of it, didn't she say she's written it to a few different leg.
SPEAKER_02:Yeah. Oh fuck out. What an ending. Mm-hmm. I gotta hope the poor wife in the car accident that's having the baby does know nothing of this. Yeah. I was not prepared for that ending. No, that was great.
SPEAKER_01:It was, wasn't it?
SPEAKER_02:That was good.
SPEAKER_01:I like that. Yeah, yeah. So you're gonna be able to compete with that. And it was posted three years ago, so I don't think we will get anything else because it was all removed. Do you know what? That's okay.
SPEAKER_02:I'm quite happy with that ending.
SPEAKER_01:Yeah, it was just well, wait, call me. So I feel like you know, he's ended things, he's shut that down. So we kind of get a little bit of a a little bit of a little bit of a thing, but yeah. Cool, hey.
SPEAKER_02:Oh my lord, that was take you on a bit of a ride. That was fun. Yeah, that was fun. Oh, I did like that. That was so cool. Okay, I guess it's my turn. It is your turn, mother. I have to find my story. Mm-hmm. There it is. Okay. This one is a longie. Okay, so if you I'm good, I'm glad you're staying hydrated. Oh no, sorry. Oh, do you know what? I forgot to charge my yeah, and only have 23%. Let's hope that this. All right. Okay. Let's jump into this one. Okay, so my husband, 32 male, is convinced I, 26 female, am pregnant. I'm not. He won't believe me. What do I do?
SPEAKER_01:Oh God. Okay. Do you know what? I could understand if it was the other way around. Like, you know, the girl thinks that she's pregnant. Yeah. Because like I sometimes I've convinced myself that I was pregnant. Was it soon after you had the kids?
SPEAKER_02:Yeah. Yeah. So I was the same. I remember uh it was one of one of you guys, and it was like only probably the first time after we'd after having kids. Do you know what I mean? I'm thinking, fuck that, feel pregnant again.
SPEAKER_01:Like I could feel the same little bubbly phantom kids, and stuff like that. Yeah, that's it. Yeah, well, that just recently happened to me, mother. And I was three days late for my period. And I was, I think I did about four pregnancy tests because I was like, holy guacamole.
SPEAKER_02:Don't tell your dad that because he's still not convinced that you and Jay actually still sleep in the same bed.
SPEAKER_01:Oh no.
SPEAKER_02:He thinks the girls were immaculately concepted. Yeah. Conceived.
SPEAKER_01:But yeah, anyway, so we were like, I was I was low-key panicking. I was like, oh just go burn. And no, it just you know, it sometimes a year after you like a year after having a baby, it all can it takes a little while for your cycle to kind of get back to get back to regular, but like low-key was crapping my dax.
SPEAKER_02:I'm surprised I didn't get a phone call. Like the minute you were half an hour late.
SPEAKER_01:Yeah, well, I was a little bit scared to tell you. Confessions. I would have been okay. No. Well, I was I'm getting sweaty telling you now, and I was like, Mom, I'm fucked up!
SPEAKER_00:Today I'm fucked up.
SPEAKER_01:Yeah, okay. It's all good, guys though.
SPEAKER_02:Not pregnant, don't start any rumours. No, no rumours. Okay, so again, shall I just retitle this since we've been we went off track? My husband, 32 male, is convinced that I, 26 female, am pregnant. I'm not, and he won't believe me. What do I do? You write to Reddit so we can help you. I'm truly at a loss here. The situation has gotten worrying and I don't know what to do with it. Since about a week, my husband became a convinced I was pregnant. I have no idea why because I'm not. We haven't even started trying, though we do have plans to in the future. We are making conversation, and yeah, I did mention that I was feeling tired. But that's all. A few hours later he came in so excited. I told him I'm not and he will not let it go. Like you'd be too scared to say yawn in front of him like you're pregnant.
SPEAKER_01:I know, just tired. Imagine if you started saying, Oh, I feel a bit nauseous, like Oh, well see.
SPEAKER_02:I feel like if you say nauseous, I always think nauseous with pregnancy. If you just I feel a bit sick, you'll think, oh well, you probably need to do a poo. Or you're hungry or something. Nauseous is like always like nauseous and nausea and that to pregnancy. Anyway, okay. He has had made remarks about how happy he is and what a wonderful mother I'll be and what our baby will look like. Not all the time, but it has come up multiple times a day. That would annoy the absolute piss out of me if he kept saying daily, a couple of times a day, bun in the oven.
SPEAKER_01:Well, I'd be like, What are you trying to say? You sound fat.
SPEAKER_02:Well, I think she actually does go down that thing. Oh, okay. I told him I'm not. I even took a test because even I started wondering, and it is undoubtedly negative. I showed him and he just got annoyed. He said tests can be wrong, and he didn't speak to me for the rest of the evening. The next morning, he acted as if nothing had happened. When I tell him I'm not pregnant, he just shuts me out. I lost my shit yesterday when we were in bed, and he started putting his hand on my stomach, and I told him he was acting crazy. I'm not pregnant, and his behaviour is scaring me. He went to sleep in the guest room after that, and I left for work early in the morning, and I haven't seen or spoken to him today. I'm at a loss, I don't know what to do, and I don't know where this obsession is coming from. He's even I even asked him if I'd gained weight and if that's what's gotten him confused, and he assured me that I didn't. I'm thinking of contacting his parents, or maybe even a therapist or something. I honestly don't understand what's happening, and I'm worried about my husband.
SPEAKER_01:I can't pick my jaw up off the floor. What the fuck?
SPEAKER_02:Can you imagine having your belly rubbed and you there's no baby in there? I reckon I would fist punch Brett in the face if he rubbed my stomach.
SPEAKER_01:Yeah, likewise.
SPEAKER_02:Thinking that there was a baby in there. I mean he wouldn't because like I'm old ass, but like when I was pregnant, yeah, you can rub and talk and do whatever, but yeah, no.
SPEAKER_01:I mean, the girls play with my stomach now because it's just do you guys remember you used to make cupcakes with the fat of my stomach? Yeah, and I squeeze it together. I'm sincerely sorry, okay? I call you multiple times a day and I apologize because there's things I remember doing as a kid and I'm getting payback, and now I really understand when you say, wait until you have children, because I have children now, and I call you and I'm like, I'm really sorry. Like with the toilet door opening, you're trying to sit on the toilet. Like people who are not parents, I feel like don't understand the sheer stress and anxiety of going to the toilet with a child. Like in a public toilet. Public toilet, and you're trying to hold that door shut. You've got your pants down around your ankles, trying not to sit on the toilet seat because that's fucking rank, and trying to make sure your kids are not opening the door because they're finished and they want to go out. It is. Do you know what's worse? I'm on a rant now because I mean I'm a little bit out of that stage at the moment, but I feel like I'm going to go back into that stage very soon. The disabled toilets. So I go into the disabled toilets because I normally have like the pram, and like it's just there's room. You can't go into a public toilet with all that crap. Anyway, so you go into disabled toilets and there's buttons. But the toilet is very far away from the buttons. I know she's done that to me. Dome has that sense. No, not dome, it's Northgate. Yes, Northgate. That's what I'm exactly talking about. Okay, the buttons are right near the door, the toilet is on the opposite side of the room, and this is like a two and a half or three-meter toilet. I'm not sure. But the sheer stress when you're sitting there with your pants around your ankles and you're trying to hover on the toilet seat and then there's the button fall open.
SPEAKER_02:And I had a feeling.
SPEAKER_01:I've lifted it with her.
SPEAKER_02:Okay, we actually took a dog leg down again.
SPEAKER_01:Sorry, in a dog leg that sounds bad.
SPEAKER_02:What was the question? If you don't know, sorry. Well, we should remember that people don't sometimes understand our Australian slang. We're not actually taking a dog's leg anywhere. It's like the shape of a dog's leg, it's like a bent and a curve and whatever you want. What you mean when we're going down a different path? It's like a dog leg path. Yeah. Okay, so we've let's clear that. All right. Where we've left off is that she wants her husband to, or no, she's thinking of contacting his parents or maybe a therapist to talk about this situation. We had no need to bring everyone back up to speed. Sorry. All right, this is an edit the next day. Okay, she says, Thank you for all the replies. I didn't expect all this, and it's been overwhelming, and I'm incredibly grateful. He is asleep to me right now, and I keep going through all of the comments. My husband is one of the kindest people I've ever met, and I promise you all that he's not trying to manipulate me or would do anything to harm me. But it does make me believe that something is really wrong. I will contact his parents in the morning after he's left for work. Maybe I'll go stay with my mum for a bit, although I hate the idea of leaving him like this. I also will definitely make an appointment with my doctor for a blood test. Thank you for the advice. Then there's some relevant comments that have actually been they're no longer there because people are starting to think that he may be delusional and delusions can become violent and stuff. So it kind of went a bit like a psychosis, yes, type of thing. Anyway, so then that being delayed, and then she goes on to say that they hit her really hard. I do appreciate it a lot, but I am very torn. I love my husband very much, and I'm worried about him right now. But I feel increasingly uncomfortable at home as well. Then there's a commenter says something about a phantom pregnancy. This thing only affects women, but suppose a guy could have it too. Obviously, as time goes on, she won't be producing a bump or a baby, and he'll recognise that she's not pregnant. So, do you understand what they're talking about? Like, like a woman can have a phantom pregnancy. They're thinking that maybe he is going through the emotions of having a I remember our dog had a phantom pregnancy. Yeah, Cleo, she did. She carried a puppy around for ages, she started lactating and everything. We end up having to get her fixed up or spated because she just yeah, bless her.
SPEAKER_03:Yeah.
SPEAKER_02:We could have let her have a little puppies, litter of puppies, but like she was our pup baby. Yeah. Anyway, okay, dog leg again. Literally. So he would realise that she's not pregnant. But this probably isn't some profound mental illness on his part. Yeah, he's 32, she's only 26, he could possibly be in the ready to dad phase of life more than what she would be in the ready to mum phase. So that's what this person's talking about.
SPEAKER_01:Make him be a daddy if he's uh yeah.
SPEAKER_02:Rubbing my belly. So anyway, the the commenter has just said, just remind him that we've still got time. Like she's only 26, we've got time. She says, try and do that. It just feels like such a weird response to wanting a child. Then the commenter says it's not urgent enough response, and it seems like this is a pretty serious delusion. This behaviour isn't normal or applicable in reasonable terms. It's very unlike him. I might try and call his my mum and ask if I can stay with them for a bit. Only until we get this all sorted. I just want him to snap out of it. I miss my Husband as I know him. Commenter. Would he ever harm you if you if he thought that you got an abortion? Because that's a possibility. He may accuse you of having an abortion and get medical confirmation that you're not pregnant after he's decided that you are. So that making sense of that is that he's going to accuse her of having an abortion. Then she goes on to say, oh my, that is wild. Either way, I'll meet with my gynecologist if only to have some conclusive proof that I'm not. And then there's a mini update after that. Things escalated yesterday. I'm with my mum, and his parents are at our place. Okay, then there's a little break in time. Yeah. And then there's an update. Okay, I should say that there's a bit of a trigger warning with this. I know what's going to happen because I've already read the story, but let's like trigger warning as in like in case I kind of need to like miss. No, I don't think you need to switch off. Oh, okay. Okay. Hi everyone. I hope it's okay that I post this update. I really appreciate everyone asking if I'm safe, and I am. I wish I could glear answers, but I can't. Things escalated when I tried to speak to him, keeping some of your old advice in mind. I sat down and explained to him that I would love to have kids with him in the future, but I'm not pregnant right now. And that his insistence worries me and scares me. I've told him that we can go to the doctor together and if that will put his mind at ease, or I could take another test in front of him. And then in parentheses, I was just hoping to snap him out of it somehow. He got very agitated and said many hurtful things and accused me of being a liar many times. That I'm trying to keep our baby away from him and so on. Nothing made sense and I wasn't feeling safe anymore. I knew my husband would never harm me in any way, but that wasn't my husband. Things got worse. He did hurt me. Nothing permanent or even an emergency case worthy. I know that he wasn't in his right mind and he would never have done anything like this. I called my parents and his parents and I'm now staying with my mum. It did seem to calm down a bit when his parents arrived. I haven't seen or spoken to him since then. His mother is an angel. She is keeping me posted about everything, and we all agreed that something is very off with him, and we don't know what it is. He hasn't agreed to getting himself checked out in any way. I don't know how to go about it, but they say, and I painfully have to agree that it's best for me to keep my distance, as most of it's aimed at me. I'm not safe, and so is he. If they're separated, they're safe. I miss him very much, and I just want to hear answers as to why he's being like this. I'll keep trying to figure out if there was any signs before or what I did wrong. Thank you for all the replies. They were a great help, and it's so kind that you all cared and asked if I'm safe.
SPEAKER_01:Wait, can I say something?
SPEAKER_02:Oh yes, please, let's take a moment.
SPEAKER_01:Yeah. I hang on, you said something before and it's she's what she did wrong. I don't think she did anything wrong. She shouldn't think that she's done anything wrong. Something's obviously flipped a switch. Like I'm thinking, like, could he have like a brain tumour pressing, you know, that sort of thing, like pressing on his in his brain, and so you know how sometimes people can come up with or is it like onset dementia or Alzheimer's or something really, you know, like that? I feel really sad for her because if her husband wasn't like this, like how hard would that be to be away knowing your husband's sick, but you can't be there physically because it's unsafe for you to be around him.
SPEAKER_02:And it like she says, it's his anger and everything's targeted at him. At her, yeah. At her, sorry, yeah. Okay, where am I up to? So this is a relevant comment. Let's pray it's not drugs. Since he refuses to get checked out, I'm so sorry, OP. I hope everything gets better soon. I don't know if you're going to go back. I don't know if going back to him is going to be a good idea, though he physically hurt you. She says, I do think that whatever's causing this is the reason that he hurt me. We've been together for some years now and he never raised his voice at me until this. Thank you. But I have been reading all the comments. You guys are so kind to me, but I'm scared shitless about what this could be and reading everyone's experiences. Okay, these are all little mini updates two days later. Apparently he has agreed to get himself checked out, but I haven't heard anything else. Ten days from original post. He is in the hospital. Many people are right about this being a medical issue. I will get more into it at some point, but first we need to see what's happening with him. I have seen him a couple of times. Sometimes he's his normal self, and sometimes he can't stand this with me, but we are managing somehow. Okay.
SPEAKER_01:Don't tell me he died.
SPEAKER_02:I don't know if anyone will ever see this here, but you've all been so kind to keep asking whether we're okay or not. I hope I'll reach out to you like this. So I'm gonna I and I'm gonna keep this short. I'm gonna get sad now. My husband has a brave tumor. Yeah. A lot of people commented this, and I feel an immense amount of guilt that I hadn't even considered it until now. All the headaches and all the other symptoms are in hindsight. We've previously dismissed because of his stressful work situation and so on. I'm beating myself up that I hadn't seen it before. A wonderful team of neurosurgeons, oncologists, and physicians are figuring out the best approach, and even if there is one. We'll hear more about it in the next few days. I've spent more time with my husband in some moments his amazing self, and in others he's filled with anger. It's difficult, but we are managing. I wouldn't have been able to without the support of our friends and family. I love my husband. This situation is so terrifying. In the moments of clarity, he is trying to make me laugh, so I don't worry. And that's just who he is. Thank you for everyone for pushing me to get him checked out.
SPEAKER_01:Okay. Oh my god, this is heartbreaking.
SPEAKER_02:I know. She says that she is home now, but her husband is in the hospital. A commenter goes on to say, in his moment of clarity, does he recognise how he's been acting, or is there always some level of distortion? She says he seems mainly he has apologised, but his mind is not working with him right now. Commenter goes on to say, OP, this is not the first time. I've seen this on Reddit where brain tumour has caused significant behaviour changes. I hope surgeons are able to remove it and your husband's previous personality comes back. Have the doctors given you any info on what to expect after the tumour has been removed? She says, right now that's the question is if it can be removed. There's a lot we don't know right now. The doctors and nurses have been incredibly kind though. Three weeks later, I I'm irrationally angry at my husband for having a brain tumor. There's grief. Yeah. She says, I can't say these feelings out loud and not to the people around me. So I hope it's okay to do it here. I'm furious with my husband for getting sick. I know he's not to blame. I know he's suffering, and yet I'm furious with him. I can't explain it. He's the love of my life. How dare he get sick? How dare oh far out, lady. How dare he change everything about our wonderful life that we planned? How dare he leave me so much sooner than when we are old and sin old? Two months ago, our perfect life. How could everything go so horrible so fast? I love him so much it hurts because I'm angry with him right now. I just feel like a horrible person. Oh, you're not a horrible person, OP. Then she says, It's 2 a.m. here, and I apologize if this is not very coherent. I'm going to step away from all social media, and I wanted to leave you with a brutally honest update. It's silly, but your all support means a lot to me. Don't get me wrong, I have wonderful friends and family, but in a way I have to comfort them too, and I just can't deal with that right now. My husband is dying. That's too sad. It's been five weeks since his diagnosis, and he's gotten worse quickly. Today is the decision. Yeah. Today is the decision that we made that we're not going to continue treatment or even actually started. He's not strong enough. He has a month, maybe, if we're lucky. I'm furious at the world right now, and I'm furious at him. I can't even read it anymore. Oh my goodness. Sorry, everyone. Don't be sorry. Which makes me an enormous bitch because what kind of person is angry at their husband for being ill? I love him so much, and yet I hate him for it. I'm sorry, I wish this was a better update. This is just heartbreaking. Okay. Top comment is fucking hell, I'm so sorry. I remember hoping that it was just that it was schizophrenia and not a tumour. I'm still kind of hoping that this is someone's creative writing venture, and I'm fucking devastated for you. But I know the tears from a stranger on the internet aren't really enough to comfort you, but they are falling for you. I lost my little sister a few years ago, and I love her so much. She was my world. I was like half of her parent. I was planning a life on having her live with me, and after a very quick progression of an unknown illness, she was gone. I can still only imagine what you're going through, and I'm so sorry. I hope you are already linked with palliative care. They are some of the most amazing people. I just take it literally one second at a time, and then one minute at a time, then one hour, then one day. I was taking it an hour at a time for months after she died. And I still sometimes just go day by day. If you can get to a grief counselor, go ASAP. I did phone sessions. I mainly use my sessions to talk about my sister and tell stories and remember her. You have okay, that's about where that ends. I'm sending you love and light. He goes on to say, This comment means a lot to me, and thank you. And I'm sorry for what you've gone through. Commenter says grief has different stages. There's denial, anger, bargaining, depression, and acceptance. You're in the anger stage. It is totally justified after the things that you went through before diagnosis. You are angry because you've been robbed of a future together with your husband. As or also, you know it's a very hard road ahead of you that you didn't think would happen until you were both old and grey. I don't have advice for you, and I'm sorry that you're going through this. Your feelings are normal and valid. Maybe speaking to a professional might help also.
SPEAKER_03:And that's that. And that's it. Yep. How many years when was this posted?
SPEAKER_02:2024.
SPEAKER_03:Wonder how she's going.
SPEAKER_02:No.
SPEAKER_03:They were only young two, weren't they?
SPEAKER_02:He was 32 and she was only 20. Oh my god, that's like only a year older than me.
SPEAKER_03:Yeah. So young.
SPEAKER_02:So her first post was the 5th of August. And then five weeks later.
SPEAKER_03:Yeah. God.
SPEAKER_02:And she goes on to and so that last post was like September. That's so sad. 17th, yeah. So sad. Oh my goodness me. Okay.
SPEAKER_01:I hope you've got a palette cleanser, Chloe, or we're out of time because that was. It was a longie. Uh, we're not out of time at all, no.
SPEAKER_03:But I do have a story for you.
SPEAKER_01:I feel like we need to have something light. Yeah. I do have a light one. Oh, cool. Yeah. I was gonna read, I think my husband is having an affair with his stepsister, but maybe we can record that as a bonus as a mood. Oh, I need to move my legs a little bit lighter.
SPEAKER_02:Yeah. Happy to do that too. I think maybe everyone else needs to hear a bit of a palette cleanser.
SPEAKER_01:Yeah. Okay. So this one was posted in 2016. Oh, it's an oldie. Yeah, it's going into the archives. I, 32 male, have been sleeping with my best friend 32 female for two weeks. And I think we've been dating for 10 years, and I never realized it.
SPEAKER_02:Mate, you're lucky she's still hanging around then.
SPEAKER_01:Okay, so me and Sophie have been best friends since like the first grade. She was my next door neighbor growing up, and we went to the same college, we got jobs in the same city, and we've become roommates since we were 25. Seems like we've been a couple all along, but I've never really thought of her sexually since we were teenagers. She had a boyfriend at like 17, and they were really in love with each other, and I was good friends with him, but unfortunately, he drowned like a week after we graduated high school. She was obviously a wreck, and I helped her as much as I could to get through it. And in the process, we pretty much become inseparable. It's not like one of us was clinging to the other, it was completely mutual. We like the same things, we had the same interests and did stuff together all the time. When she was having a hard time sleeping because of Rick's drowning, she would come over because she didn't want to be alone, and I, of course, was there for her. Eventually, we graduated college and decided to get jobs in the same city. And eventually, after that, we decided to move in as roommates because we saved a ton of money and we're always hanging around together anyway. Now I realized that basically I think we've been a couple, except we just didn't have sex. Of course, she would have a guy over sometimes, but it was never really serious, and same with me. I dated a bit, but never really felt a connection with any of them. So about two weeks ago, we were watching wrestling like we do every week, and she started softly crying. We were sitting like inches from each other on the couch. So, of course, I put my arm around her and asked if she was okay and if she needs to talk. Basically, she's been having a hard time finding a guy and she's really upset. She's always been kind of thick, but now is a little bit chubby, and says that attractive guys don't want to sleep with her anymore. So I'm trying to be supportive and stuff. And I wasn't lying, I've always thought she was really pretty, but I said that it's not true, and plenty of guys would love to sleep with her. We always make crude jokes to each other. And I said something like, if we weren't like the best friends ever, I'd been trying to f so bad. Jokes to each other. And I said something like, if we weren't best friends, the bestest friends ever, I would have been trying to fuck you for the past 10 years. She gave me this look like I had just flipped a switch on a robot, like she was just staring right into my eyes, and my brain was telling me to kiss her. So I did. We were making out for probably five minutes, and she had pulled my shirt off and I'd pulled hers off. And then I think, oh my god, the tension for two. Oh, what am I doing? So I stopped and I'm like, whoa, we need to think about this. Are we sure we want to go down this road? We talked for like two minutes, and we basically decided, hey, we've been friends for 25 years and been through all way worse together than having sex one time. It shouldn't be an issue. It was by far the best sex I'd ever had. Oh my god, because he's been waiting 10 years for it. And now, since that time, we've had sex at least once every day, sometimes two, sometimes three. They are like waking up for rabbits. We both recognize that we need to discuss this, but keep saying we'll discuss it tomorrow and when we have more time. But I recognize that we have to discuss it soon, and I'm scared. I think I realize that I've been madly in love with her this entire time. And that's why I never connected with any woman I had dated. I'm really hoping it's the same for her. I think we might both have felt this way for a long time and were finally just realizing it. It just sounds so fucking crazy. Like, what the fuck is going on? Am I crazy? Am I getting my hopes up? If she doesn't feel the same way I do, how can I ever hang out with her again? Like, what do I do?
SPEAKER_02:Oh, she of course she does feel. She wouldn't be having sex with you two, three times a day if she'd feel the same. I know. Oh my god, bend the knee, mate. Make it real. Yeah, you've been dating long enough. The engagement's over. Get step in there, make it a forever thing.
SPEAKER_01:Top comment is I think she's into you. Otherwise, she probably wouldn't have been sleeping with you multiple times. I suggest you start taking her out on real dates if she agrees and is receptive to cuddling and holding hands. She's into you. Definitely that yeah. And whenever you feel is the right time, you can tell her what's in your heart and how you feel about her. OP says, I mean, like we always cuddle on the couch, especially in college, and she would come to my dorm because she couldn't sleep, and we'd sleep in my bed together, just nothing sexual happened. I'm starting to think she's spent 15 years trying to give me hints now. It's a long time. How old are they?
SPEAKER_02:32 and 30. Yeah, both. Oh, you grown ass adults. Make it happen. And you know what? Don't go down that rabbit hole or we'll lose our friendship if this doesn't work. If you're already good friends, now you've got sex, bingo, bango. That's the love of your life.
SPEAKER_01:Someone else says, This is adorable. It sounds like you guys are basically in the perfect position for this to happen. Are you worried expectations will change if you become an official couple? Maybe pick an evening once a week to do a serious check-in with each other and have fun. I bet all your friends are gonna be like, geez, guys, finally.
SPEAKER_02:Yes, we all knew it was happening. We were just waiting for the penny to drop for you. Edit. Oh my god, seriously?
SPEAKER_01:I just got home from work. She gets home in a bit. I think I'm gonna sit her down and lay it all out there. I'm so stressed out by not knowing.
SPEAKER_02:Fuck off. Of course he knows. He knows. She's not gonna the next day.
SPEAKER_01:I was gonna say, there better be an edit now. She just got home and I told her we need to talk. And she seemed disappointed.
SPEAKER_02:Of course, no good conversation starts with we need to talk. Give her flowers, and I was so I was really bummed.
SPEAKER_01:Like she looked like she wanted to cry. But I said, please just let me say what I need to say, and then we can go from there. I told her that since we had started having sex, I've realized that I have been in love with her for a really long time and I just didn't realize it. She started trying to hold back tears, and I got the worst knot in my stomach and thought I was literally going to puke. I told her it's okay if she doesn't feel the same way, and I would be there for her as a friend, and I would try my best not to let my feelings get in the way. But now that's out there, I guess, and it's out there, I guess, and there isn't going back. And she told me to stop and she was crying now. I stopped and I felt like an eternity just sitting there. I couldn't even look at her face, and then she just kind of wrapped her arms around me and buried her face in my chest and was sobbing. I'm sitting there confused, trying to figure out, confused. Finally, she looks up at me and says she's been waiting for me to say that since the reason she was crying on the couch the other week was because she thought it had been long enough and it wasn't going to happen. And that's why she kept trying to put it off having a talk after we started having sex because she thought that was the closest we'd come to being a couple. Now we're waiting for our Chinese food to come after some awesome sex. Thank you so much for the advice and getting me to finally say something.
SPEAKER_02:Yay! Okay, that's good. How are we going for time? We've got it. So I've got it printed off a little podcast hot seat questions for us. Thought we can start doing that. Yeah, okay. Yeah, so I've got a list here. I'm just gonna pull out one. So you you have the same list, but you're not gonna know which one I'm gonna read, okay? And you can do the same for me. All right. What's a childhood memory that still makes you smile? And please don't say making jelly belly cupcakes with my stomach skin.
SPEAKER_01:No, oh, there's so many. Childhood memory that makes me. I feel like oh, what kind of what could I pick? No, sorry. That's a really hard question to start with.
SPEAKER_02:It doesn't have to be the best one, just one that you can think of.
SPEAKER_01:Hang on, I need a I need a penny, but I think you know, I didn't have sisters at all, but my brothers did a pretty good job of role-playing sisters they did for me. I remember setting up you know, the old cane chairs at the tall chairs we used to have. Yep, yep. And I remember getting caught trying to cut Raiden's hair out when we lived at that, yeah, that house. And I remember, you know, playing cubby houses and you know those sorts of things. And Riley, I remember, you know, when I was doing my makeup course and all that sort of stuff, and he would be my test dummy. Sorry, boys, but yeah, thank you for playing hairdressers and beauty therapy and those sorts of things. I like I feel like they were some of my favourite memories, but also down at the river, oh yeah, they were some good ones. Yeah, making mud slides and riding our motorbikes, camping, and just there's so many.
SPEAKER_02:Isn't it what a beautiful life that you have? So many.
SPEAKER_01:Yeah, like actually I found it really hard to I had to like sit there and just really go back, and like so many were coming back and making me smile, and I was like, I can't just pick one.
SPEAKER_02:If you asked me that question, I would find it very difficult too. I had a very lovely life too. But a memory now that it's not even a memory, but it's one of my favorite things now was you sent me some photos the other day, but you had used AI to and the one of the three of us with my brother and my sister, and I'm sitting in the middle, and then you made it so it was animated, yeah. And like that, I feel like that wasn't a memory, but but now I see it and I just can't stop looking at it, and I think it's beautiful. We could probably put that on there, yeah. Like, I don't mind. So if you just want to have a look at this, uh, it was just a still photo, but Chloe used AI, I'm assuming that that's what you did and made it so the photo actually came to life, and it was it's the most beautiful thing now because my brother has recently passed away, and it's just so nice to have a look at that photo of the three of us, all young. And I mean, I have plenty of photos of the three of us as adults or anything, but this was probably our one of those first ones you have when there's you know little kids. So that for me is okay. Did you want to ask me something? I don't know, put me on the spot.
SPEAKER_01:Okay, all right, I'm gonna ask you some would you rather questions. Would you rather have a rewind button or a pause button on your life?
SPEAKER_02:Oh geez, no, I think I'm gonna say pause because there's a lot of things that I would like to rewind and do again, but then if I rewound and did again, my life would go on a different trajectory and then things may not happen. So I don't think I would do a rewind. And to date, I've never done anything that bad that I need to eradicate. So I'm just gonna go pause just to give us a minute to stop and think before doing something. So yeah, okay, I like that one. I'm not rewinding, I'll just pause.
SPEAKER_01:I'd be the same. I think a pause just to absorb a moment longer, yeah. Yeah, yeah, or give you the chance to change a direction if you needed to. Yeah, think about your next steps. What would you rather perform? Would you rather perform in front of 1000 people or record a song that millions will hear online? Both. That's both.
SPEAKER_02:I want to do both. Yeah. I would love to perform in front of millions of people singing that song that everyone will listen to.
SPEAKER_01:Yeah, I'm gonna do both. Yeah, okay. Would you rather teleport anywhere or read minds for one day? Teleport. Yeah, I could handle listening to people's thoughts. No, it would cause me stress.
SPEAKER_02:Yeah, and like I would just think, oh my god, I thought we were friends and you're thinking that about me right now. Couldn't cope, I'd fall into a little hole and I would travel so many times.
SPEAKER_01:Yeah, I'm teleporting. Yep. Would you rather relive your favorite day or skip ahead to your dream future?
SPEAKER_02:Oh, if you skipped ahead, there's so many other moments that you would miss out on. I think I'll have to just relive my favorite day.
SPEAKER_01:Yeah. Would you rather never sleep again or never eat again? But you'd still live.
SPEAKER_02:I kind of do like sleep. Eating, but I do like no, I'm not a big foodie. You know, if we go to a different place, country, whatever, I'm not like, oh, I wonder what the cuisine is like. I'm more like, gee, I hope the pillows are comfy.
SPEAKER_01:I'm the opposite. I think I would prefer never to sleep again, but like, you know, still function and live and those sorts of things, than not to eat. Like, I enjoy food, I love my food. Yeah. Like Jamie and I, if we're going to Perth for about a week before we go to Perth, we research different places to go and eat.
SPEAKER_02:Not never have done. Like, I haven't had breakfast yet. What's the time now? It's only half past nine. I haven't had breakfast yet. I've got pain in my stomach. I can't work out whether it's probably heart or hunger. So no, I'm not a foodie. I'm gonna go stick with clean sheets, pillow, sleep. Okay. Is that it? Yeah, that's it. Easy. That was painless. All right. Well, I had fun. That was a bit of a roller coaster. Yeah, that's right. I did. Oh my god, that was a really sad story there.
SPEAKER_01:Yeah. And we were we we might have to start doing some bonus stories and adding them. Yeah, that would be fun, some quick little ones. Yeah. Some little short fire ones for little extra bits.
SPEAKER_02:Yeah.
SPEAKER_01:Let us know if that's something that you would like.
unknown:Yeah.
SPEAKER_02:We could probably go a little more crazy.
SPEAKER_01:Alrighty. Until next time. We'll see you next week, actually. Alright, I love you. Have a great day. Love you too. Bye. Bye.
